"Sorting Out Stress", by Grant Brecht,
1.Filtering- Look at what you can do and have done, not just at what you can't do or haven't done. Catch yourself being good.List down the things you do well.
2.Over-generalising- Remind yourself that one bad thing happening is just that - One bad thing. What positive things also happened during the week? Learn from things, then get on with life.
3.Catasthrophising- So what if something does happen? Will you be able to stop it? If the answer is yes, stop it now; If not be aware and return to your normal day.
4.Emotional Reasoning -Remind yourself that only you feel that way. It is probably not the way the rest of the world sees it. Use your thinking and action to do something constructive rather than let your feelings dictate your reactions.
5.Being right - You seldom get a medal for being right, and it's okay to make a mistake or not be right. Who knows what you might learn?
6.Blaming- Don't fall into victim trap by victimising yourself or others. let it go. Practise being wrong and dealing with it with dignity.Take on the ownership of resolving the problem; "If it's to be, it's up to me"
7.Shoulds and musts - As I have said, there is no universal law stating we or others should or must. "Shoulds" and "Musts" stress us out. There are generally used for blaming or pressuring others by trying to make them feel guilty about something- "I would like you to" or "I will give it my best shot" are rational statements without the burden of "you should" or "I must"
8.Martyr Syndrome- "I am important to look after, I will remain ambitious about the balance in my life". Enjoy life through a good balance of work, intimate, social, leisure and recreational activities.